There’s a moment most leaders experience sooner or later. You look at your staff. You look at the missed deadlines. The unanswered emails. The half-finished initiatives. The slow follow-through. And you think it. “Why are they so lazy?” But here’s the hard truth (and it’s one that will either mature you or harden you): If you’re leading a team and the common diagnosis is “they’re lazy,” the problem is rarely laziness. More often, it’s the system. And when the system is overlo

There’s a quiet pain many ministry leaders carry—one that rarely gets discussed publicly, and even more rarely gets addressed intentionally. Barna recently published an important piece titled “Inside the Friendship Gap for Pastors” (Jan. 13, 2026), highlighting something many pastors already feel in their bones: the emotional isolation that can come with leadership. THE FRIENDSHIP GAP IS REAL Barna’s research reveals several sobering realities: Many pastors report strong marr

Artificial Intelligence (AI) is becoming a growing presence in how people seek emotional and mental health support. From chatbots that promise 24/7 conversation to apps that offer “therapy-like” guidance, AI tools are increasingly positioned as solutions for anxiety, loneliness, and emotional distress. A recent article by the Oak Health Foundation, “Mental Health and AI: Exploring the Dangers and Benefits,” offers a thoughtful examination of this trend and its implications fo

Every few weeks, another story surfaces about a pastor, ministry leader, or volunteer who finally says, “I’m done. I can’t carry this anymore.” And too often, the responses sound like this: “They just didn’t have enough faith.” “If they were really called, they wouldn’t burn out.” “Ministry is hard — toughen up.” What grieves me most is not that leaders grow tired — Scripture reminds us that we are dust. What grieves me is when church cultures help create burnout, then condem

There is something sacred about beginnings. BHKM wasn’t created simply to start another program or ministry. It has grown out of years of listening, praying, learning, and walking alongside people who deeply love Jesus and still quietly carry exhaustion, wounds, confusion, pressure, and questions they don’t always know how to name. Many of us keep showing up. We serve. We lead. We try to be faithful. And yet inside, parts of us can feel stretched thin or worn down. BHKM exist